Farm succession and planning is such a never-ending process that what was said during your first conversation with your spouse or another family member can take place weeks even months before you share what was discussed with your advisers.
If you don’t write down what is said, in an order that makes accurate recall possible, your communications will be like those described by Lewis Carroll, “I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant” in Alice in Wonderland.
Writing down what people say when they say it is important, because in the end what you are trying to achieve and create is a sort of “relationship agreement” that spells out how you and they all see the future together. Maybe what comes out of these farm succession and planning conversations is a collection of relationship agreements on simple issues as well as your mutual ideas for the big ones.
Whenever two or more people are involved in a long term interdependent relationship there is likely to be disagreement. In a family business these disagreements are often more acute because they are never just about business – they are always tinged with something personal, everyone has a history and a future that gets lumped into whatever infraction of the code is observed by the others. Continue reading ‘Farm Succession and Planning Key – Write Everything Down’ »